people pleaser

The (Not Always) Strong? I got over it.

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, February 10, 2024 • Leave a Comment

Are you one of “the strong ones” who’s got it all together? Are you the one who helps, who has answers, who offers the shoulder other people can feel free to cry on? Are you the handler of things, the planner of activities, the thrower...

Exposure Therapy

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, December 28, 2022 • Leave a Comment

Exposure Therapy. Do y’all know what that is? It’s what it sounds like. It’s when you’re forced to do something, face something, experience something, to be able to move past it. You move past it by exposing yourself to it, then realizing nothing really comes...

Embrace doing nothing.

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, December 27, 2022 • 1 Comment

Overachievers, Workaholics, and People Pleasers, listen to me… You are NOT doing nothing. This weird week between Christmas and New Year’s Day, know that if you use your downtime to sleep, read, watch TV, work a crossword puzzle, sew, eat cheese, sit and stare out...

Identity Crisis?

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, September 8, 2022 • Leave a Comment

My hair is purple, right in the front. It’s been blonde, even red, but purple…it’s kind of my thing. It’s fun. I get compliments on it all the time. People ask me questions about it, too. Is it permanent? (Yes.) Do you do it yourself?...

Open heart. Open mind.

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, May 19, 2022 • Leave a Comment

You know what people do? They opinion shop. They feel-good shop. They justify shop. They comeraderie shop. Not only does misery love company, but so does contentment. People are out shopping for connectedness. They want to feel good about themselves and their choices. They want...

You Asked How I’m Doing

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, April 22, 2022 • 1 Comment

Hi, I am Amanda, and I get emotional when someone sends me a message to ask how I’m doing. Crazy, right?! I am so focused on accomplishing big things, supporting people, and pushing kids into the spotlight. I am busy trying to make people’s lives...

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 4

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, April 19, 2022 • Leave a Comment

Let me tell you what happens when a People Pleaser gets ruffled. We freak out inside. Yep, immediately there are 57 windows open in our brain at the same time, each one dedicated to finding the source of what we did wrong, how we can...

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 3

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, April 19, 2022 • Leave a Comment

I run a dance studio, right? It’s our tenth year, and I’m over the moon about the success of the place. When I opened, I thought I would teach dance…nope. It turned out to be so much more than that – love and family, challenges...

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 2

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, April 14, 2022 • 3 Comments

Tales of the Recovering People Pleaser continue as I work to shed the idea that my worth is conditional. If you missed my last post, go see it, and ride the wave with me toward peace…at least let’s hope. People Pleasing is awful. Do not...

Recovering People Pleaser, Part 1

In Stories & Reflections • by Amanda Herring, Writer, April 14, 2022 • 1 Comment

People Pleasers notice things. They quickly recognize when someone approves of them…or disapproves. Then we…I mean, they…ok, it’s ME, I’m the People Pleaser…immediately make the connection between what we did or said with why the other person liked or didn’t like us. Immediately. People Pleasers...