You don’t have to fix everything. Nope. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to even address it. You can just…let it be.

It’s ok to not respond.

It’s ok to give your mind and your heart a rest.

It’s ok to protect your mind and your heart.

It’s ok to refuse to get worked up.

It’s ok to perceive a situation differently than someone else.

It’s ok if someone gets upset. They have to own their feelings.

You know why this is all ok? Because you are not responsible for fixing everything. The burden is not on you. You don’t have to be the smoother of rough spots or the refresher of relationships gone stale. You don’t have to show up to every fight you’re invited to, and you sure don’t have to take one to the chin just to get the fight over with.

It’s hard to break out of the confines of responsibility. When your brain automatically assigns you the role of The Fixer, ignore it. Tell it to get stuffed…and just breathe. Resist that dumb voice urging you to do something, reminding you what could happen, and scaring you into thinking all will take the ditch.

Don’t pick up the phone. Don’t text back. Don’t start forming judgments and opinions, justifications and arguments. Just let it be. That’s it.

There’s a movement right now circulating around social media, and I believe there’s been a song on the charts recently…Let them. Let them be. Let them think and feel and do whatever. Absolve yourself of the responsibility of being The Fixer. You’ll feel so much better, and you’ll begin to wonder why you ever thought that was your job in the first place.

(By the way, there is actually a reason you think it’s your job to be The Fixer. It comes from a lot of conditioning throughout your life. You can “fix” that.)

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